For better or worse, it’s’ very easy to get caught up in the moment. When emotions are running high and all of the events around us start to swirl together, we tend to fall prey to our feelings as our mind becomes less of a priority, fading into the background of influences. Oftentimes, once that moment passes, our senses start to come back to us, and we realize how rash we’ve acted.
A short time ago, a student was missing from my study hall. I had seen him earlier, so I knew he was in the building, but for some reason, he was not where he was supposed to be. I fumed as I quickly filled out a behavioral referral, emailing an administrator and his mother. When he returned, I launched into a tirade about responsibility. He innocently told me that he was in the cafeteria because he needed to eat something. I blindly continued my rant, suggesting that it was irresponsible.
Later that day, his mother emailed me back, mentioning that she was surprised and asking if he had ever exhibited behaviors like this one before. I sheepishly replied that he hadn’t, and meekly explained where he had been. She replied that although she was sorry for his absence, perhaps I had been too ‘hasty’ in my discipline and that a firm word or two would have sufficed. After some reflection, I realized she was right. If I had just taken a deep breath, collected my thoughts, and put a lid on my emotions, I would have handled the situation very differently. I acknowledged my clouded judgement to her and withdrew the referral.
There is great strength in withdrawing from our lives for a time to recollect our thoughts and get our heads straight. For years, presidents have logged vacations and golf outings so that they could have time to themselves, recharge their proverbial batteries, and return with a refreshed attitude and mindset. Marriage requires the same approach, especially where children are involved. Similarly, I frequently warn my students away from emotional responses in social media, reminding them that although it feels great in the moment, that moment is the only reward: the rest is filled with regret and consequence. If they just take a moment to withdraw from the screen and allow their minds to reengage above their hearts, they will quickly realize the negative impact their actions could have. Time away helps us to get ourselves together so that we can avoid ourselves at our worst, thus being our best selves for others when we return.
Right after Christ had fed the five thousand with loaves and fishes, a tremendous miracle, He decided to escape the excitement and be alone. “After He had dismissed (the disciples), He went up on a mountainside by Himself to pray. Later that night, He was there alone” (Matthew 14.23). The feeding was more than likely incredibly emotional, moving, and taxing, taking a toll on Him as it simultaneously swept Him up in all the excitement and thrill of the moment. So, Christ recognized the need to withdraw, get His emotions in check, and recharge Himself so that He could be at His best for His disciples. A short time away from the thunderous hum of life allowed Him to get back into a more peaceful state, allowing for a closer walk with God, His father.
Withdrawing from the world when emotions run high not only prevents us from potential emotional mistakes, but also resets our priorities and brings us closer to Him through the peace that comes with a silencing of the world. This week, take time to retreat from the world so that your mind is not clouded by your emotions, and allow God to refresh you in the peace of that retirement. Amen.