With the end of the school year upon me and my students, the thoughts that run through the heads of some are often laced with the pungent and distinct fear of failure. Students need to graduate to their next level of education, whether that be college or just the next grade, and some of my outliers’ grades are just not up to muster. So, some do not make the cut and thus must repeat the work they did, or did not, do.
What strikes me most odd about these students is that they often become the one’s that keep in touch with me the most or are the happiest to see me years later. I recently ran into one the other day, who was a terrible student both academically and socially when in high school, failing many classes, yet when she saw me, she energetically embraced me and relayed the many adventures she had been having as a photographer for National Geographic. She admitted just how terrible she had been in school, but explained that she had figured herself out and was now much happier, hence embodying a key aspect of failure: it’s good for you.
We as a culture deeply fear failure and try to avoid it at all costs, thus we avoid risk. Artist Robert Sauber explained that, “If you have no regrets from the life you have lived, your biggest regret should be the life you haven’t lived.” If we have no failures in our lives, then perhaps we are not taking risks that carry with them the possibility of failure. So, if we spend a lifetime being failure averse, when failure comes, we don’t know how to handle it. According to a recent New York Times article, not long ago the faculty at Stanford and Harvard coined the term “failure deprived” to describe an observation they had made: students seem unable to cope with simple struggles because they do not experience any setbacks in life. Because their students have little to no experience with failure, when it does come, they don’t know what to do and experience complete fallout as a result.
Now, several colleges are attempting to tackle the problem head on by recoloring the idea that failure is something everyone experiences in life, and that people manage to come back from it. Students are learning to “fail well” and cope with the event when it comes. Upperclassmen and faculty relay stories to the incoming freshman about failures they’ve experienced, and how they learned to pick themselves back up, learn a lesson, and grow as a person. Smith College’s program now explains that, “When you can fail well, the world opens up to you. There’s no challenge you can’t pursue, no risk you can’t take, because you know how to get back up when you’re knocked down. Your potential for change, for possibility, and for success as you define it becomes limitless.”
Thomas Edison, in referencing his experience with inventing the light bulb, was quoted as saying, “I have not failed 10,000 times—I’ve successfully found 10,000 ways that will not work.” The more he failed, the more he learned. His multiple misfires and miscalculations built him to be a better, more innovative inventor. His optimistic outlook on failure and the lessons he gleaned from them led him to his greatest creation. Embracing failure helps us to re-evaluate, leading to a stronger self and outcome. The author of Psalm 119.71 likewise reveals that, “It was good for me to suffer, so that I might learn your statutes,” as his failures gave him a greater appreciation of God’s promises. Like athletes that re-watch footage of their losses, analyzing where they went wrong and how they can do better the next time, if we take the time to allow for failure as a means of self-improvement, we can grow as a result.
Our failures are not an end but a beginning to something newer and better. In 1968, while working at the 3M company, scientist Spencer Silver was attempting to come up with an extra strong adhesive but failed and developed just the opposite: a very weak one that easily peeled off when removed from any surface. As the project was deemed a failure, another scientist (Art Fry) took the adhesive papers and ended up using them as bookmarks in his church hymnal book because they didn’t leave any glue residue on the pages, thus inventing Post-Its.
This week, take risk where there is the possibility of failure, and if failure should come, take that failure and turn it into a time of learning and personal growth. Utilize it to grow not only closer to Him, but also to evolve as a person, being one who sees life not as a safe haven for success but repainted as a welcoming series of failure opportunities. Amen.