Having just come back from London and exploring all the local sights, we were anxious to get on with our next ambitious undertaking: Lego London Bridge. At 4287 pieces, it was our biggest challenge yet, and usually, Lego numbers the bags sequentially to make the process more manageable, but this time the bags were not numbered at all. So, my son and I cleared the dining room table, dumped out all the pieces, and got ready to settle in for the next week.
After about an hour or two, my wife pulled us away from the table. I thought her intention was to give us a break, but it was more to make a private comment to me: I was too focused on finishing. I wasn’t enjoying the process (nor was he) as my goal was to build the bridge, instead of enjoying Lego time with my son. I was so focused on the end result, that I was missing out on the journey. Later that day, I shifted my approach, which made for a much happier Lego time for all of us.
This wasn’t the first time I focused on the goal and not the journey, as I tend to have that problem a lot. We have three dogs, and when we go for a walk, I’m usually at the front, so far out in front of everyone that I have to be reminded that the goal is not to finish the walk but to enjoy the stroll. I quite frequently and literally forget to “stop and smell the roses,” but thanks to those that surround me in love, I am reminded to re-shift my focus.
I recently wrote about the importance of pain, that we should embrace pain and increase our thresholds if we want to experience growth. If we want the reward, we need the pain. Pain is part of the journey, and if we can take a minute to note the pain, along with all the other emotions and struggles during the journey, we will become more appreciative of the end result because we know what it took to get there. So, we should embrace the journey, no matter how painful it is to get there, as the journey is what matters.
It’s good to have goals, but probably more important is the path that gets you to that goal. Author Ursula K. Le Guin was quoted as saying, “It is good to have an end to journey toward, but it is the journey that matters in the end.” When we talk about our accomplishments, we usually tell of what it took to get us there, as that’s where our true character lies. The journey increases our wisdom, opens our eyes, and broadens our perspective. We are so quick to reject the journey and focus only on the goal, but we should take our time and enjoy the ride.
In our faith, God is the one that can refocus us back onto the journey by putting our faith in Him for guidance. Proverbs 3.5-6 tells us to “trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” This verse isn’t telling us to get to the end of our journey and accomplish our goal, but to focus on God who will reveal the journey and the direction of our paths. By putting our faith in Him, He will reveal to us the steps in our journey, as that is the more important part.
Later this month, I will be running a Spartan Dash, where I am running 4 miles but have to overcome 15-20 obstacles in the process (crawling through mud, climbing high walls, carrying buckets of rocks, etc.). At the end of the race, I will receive a medal for finishing. Is the reward the medal itself? Of course not, as the medal represents what I went through. Had someone handed me the medal and I then hung it up without racing, it wouldn’t be very satisfying. The reward is in what that medal represents, the struggle and journey taken to get there. When I look at that medal , I won’t remember receiving it, but I will remember the obstacles I overcame. The journey will be what matters, not the goal. When I look at our finished Lego project, some part of me will be happy for the accomplishment, but a larger part will fondly remember the time I had with my son building it. If I appreciate the actual running in the race and the actual building of the Legos, I will appreciate the actual moment instead of missing it because I’m too focused on the goal.
The journey is the present, whereas the goal is the future, and if we focus on the goal, we ignore what is around us and end up missing out. The great 80’s philosopher Ferris Bueller put it best when he said, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” If we focus on the goal instead of the journey, life will pass us by, but by looking to Him to make our paths straight, we appreciate and embrace the journey and are richly rewarded along the way, not just at the end. Amen.